How to Have a Happy Marriage as Parents

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Is it possible to have a good marriage after becoming parents?  Absolutely!  7 awesome tips for a happy marriage as parents, even when you don’t think you have the time.

Most people go into a marriage with high spirits, full of romantic notions about how good their marriage will be.  They go into it, accepting with open hearts, that they’re going to spend the rest of their lives together.  And, it’s almost impossible not to believe they’re always going to be in love … just the way they feel on their wedding day.

It’s a beautiful notion, but quite far-fetched.  The truth is, while you can always love your partner, it’s difficult to maintain the same level of passion throughout their years of marriage.

This is just one lesson I’ve learned in 8 years of marriage.

It’s important to go into a marriage with realistic expectations.  And believing the high you’re on when you first get married will last forever is, sadly, very unrealistic.

I’m always sad to hear about marriage dissolving because one (or both) partners didn’t feel the same as they had when they were married.  I can’t help but wonder if they simply had hit a roadblock because they were no longer able to maintain the fervor for their relationship with each other.

I know there have been times in my own marriage I’d wondered if we still loved each other.  I’ve wrestled with similar thoughts about not loving my husband like I used to.  But, when I really take a look at my marriage, I realize it is a good one.

do love my husband.  It isn’t the same as it was.  It’s a different love.  In many ways, I love him more than I did when we married.  Our lives have changed, therefore our love has changed.  We’ve had two children.  Our attention is divided.  We’re busy.  Sometimes we forget to show our love to each other.

None of it means something is wrong.  It just means our relationship is evolving and adapting with the life we’re creating together.

I want to share 7 tips for a happy marriage as parents.

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What is a Good Marriage?

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It’s also not bad to question our love for each other.  In a good marriage, both partners can discuss when they feel their marriage is becoming monotonous.  They can recognize they’re in a slump.  And, they can work on it together.

A good marriage  doesn’t just happen.  It’s made good through both parties being devoted to the relationship.  Both parties must be willing to put in the hard work to make a marriage good and keep it that way.

A good marriage will stimulate both of you.  Maybe not at the same time.  But you should both experience joy to have each other in your lives.

At the same time, a good marriage will not erase each other’s individuality.  Instead good partners encourage and support each other’s differences, so long as they’re healthy and won’t harm the marriage itself.

Best Tips for a Happy Marriage as Parents

One of this mom’s 2018 goals is to continue to put effort into my marriage.  I feel lucky to have a marriage worth fighting for and I don’t want to take it for granted.  This is how we strengthen our marriage, still after 8 years!

#1 Don’t put your kids first

This is one of the things my husband wanted me to know about being a mom.  Once I learned it, I realized just how important it was to stop putting them first.  So, it deserves the first space in tips for a happy marriage as parents.

#2 Be spontaneous

It’s not bad to keep each other guessing.  Even though I’m a huge planner, sometimes I must remember to just let go and do things on a whim.  A predictable marriage can become boring.

#3 Have similar interests

 

Get out (or stay in) and do something you and your spouse both enjoy!  The key is togetherness.  Create memories and share common interests with your spouse.

#4 Have different interests

Don’t become so obsessed with your spouse that you can’t do anything separately.  Having separate interests will go a long way in holding various conversations.  This is a great way to continue to learn more about each other, and not be dependent on one another.  His varied interests constantly remind me why I admire my husband.

#5 Spice up your love life

 

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Boredom is a relationship killer.  Get a little adventurous (and spontaneous) and try something new in the bedroom.  Of course, always have a safe-word if things get more intense than you’re comfortable with.

Experimenting in the bedroom is a great way to learn to appreciate and communicate with each other.  But, don’t forget that being overly critical can kill the mood, too.

If you’re uncertain about where to start with spicing things up, the Dating Divas have a 7 day sex challenge, designed to help you!  For $1 per day, they provide you with an entire kit, including intimacy obstacle activities, challenge cards, a calendar, and punch cards.

#6 Don’t forget to have fun

 

Create memories and enjoy each other’s company.  Remember the good times when you were just dating?  You likely tried to impress each other and worked hard not to do something that would turn each other off.  Don’t take it for granted that you’re married.  Sometimes it’s fun to date each other.

#7 Make time away from the kids

 

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Take date nights.  Take a night away.  Heck, take a whole weekend or week vacation alone.  Make time for your relationship on occasion.  Let someone else watch the kids and really give each other your full attention.  Pretend you’re newlyweds again and reignite the spark you had when you were first married.

I know my relationship isn’t perfect.  There’s no guarantee it will last forever.  That’s true of anything.  But, that’s no excuse not to give it everything you have, right now, to try and make this a good marriage.  And, just hope it build a firm foundation for a lasing marriage.

Tell me:  What’s your favorite tips for a happy marriage as parents?

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