Is it possible to keep marriage exciting after having kids? These 5 do-able tips will help you do just that!
As you make plans for your wedding day, everything is so exciting isn’t it? Getting married feels like a forever happiness as you’re making arrangements and planning your future together. After the honeymoon ends, however, real life begins.
Even really devoted couples may find themselves a little bored in their marriages. I mean, you will love your spouse, but spending day in and day out with the same individual can eventually feel mundane. If you’re not careful, this can take a toll on your relationship and make you both feel unsatisfied.
Because of this, it’s important couples not naively believe their marriage will remain exciting without some effort. Believe it or not, as a couple, you have to take some steps to keep your marriage exciting.
5 Tips to Keep Marriage Exciting (Even After Kids)
1. Have Independent Interests
Although I’ve struggled with this in the beginning of my marriage, I’ve since changed my tune after having kids. While we enjoy our our hobby together, I’ve found the importance of having my own thing.
Look, I think a couple that races together stays together, but there also needs to be some separation.
While it’s great to have similar interests and share a hobby as a couple, it’s also important to your relationship to have separate interests.
Essentially, if you both do the same things and spend every waking moment together, what will you have of interest to say to each other?
Spend an appropriate amount of time on your own hobbies and interests so that you bring something unique and fresh to your conversations. This will ensure you both having something interesting and exciting to talk about when you are together.
Do not spend so much time away from each other, however, that it makes your significant other feel unimportant. You must continue to strike balance in your relationship.
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2. Spontaneous Events
Thinking back to the years you were dating, you probably never realized how important spontaneous events were for your relationship.
Once you’re married and real life takes over, you become busy and have increased obligations, especially after having children. We tend to rely upon the strength of our relationships as we grow comfortable in them. But, doing so will work against spontaneity.
Mix things up by planning something new. Is there a show your spouse has been dying to see? Or maybe there’s a new restaurant in town you’d both like to try. Make an effort to be spontaneous on occasion to keep things fresh and exciting.
3. Never threaten separation
While this isn’t exactly a rule to keep marriage exciting, it is meant to keep your marriage healthy.
In order for a relationship to remain exciting and to grow, both parties should feel confident in the marriage commitment made to each other.
While it may seem like a harsh rule, you should consider establishing an understanding that if you threaten separation, you need to be prepared to head out the door to back it up.
If you want to survive the ups and downs that are part of all marriages, it’s important to stick with this rule.
4. Weekend Trips
A sure-fire way to keep marriage exciting is to take a vacation, just the two of you. When you have children, this will surely become even more of a priority. Take some time away from the kids to rekindle your romance!
With all of your obligations and costs associated with a full-blown vacation, it may be hard to justify. Instead, consider a one night or weekend trip to some place local. Plan dinner and an evening out, capping it off with a night or to in a local hotel.
When you consider the benefits of the quality time spent on a couples vacation, the expense of even a short trip like this can more easily be justified.
5. Spice up the bedroom
Finally, spicing things up in the bedroom will go a long way to bring excitement into any relationship.
Whether or not you wish you believe it, your sex life has a strong influence on the strength and satisfaction of your marriage.
The final tip to bring excitement into any relationship is to spice things up in the bedroom. Your sex life has a strong correlation with the strength and satisfaction of your relationship. So try exploring a new position or even a sexual fantasy or adult toy with your partner, and in so doing share something intimate and bring some excitement into your marriage.
Tell Me: Are There Other Ways to Keep Marriage Exciting?
Do you have trouble with excitement in your marriage?