Keep Marriage Exciting (Even After Kids)

Nobody wants to be in a boring marriage!  Is it possible to keep marriage exciting after having kids?  These 5 do-able tips will help you do just that!

As you make plans for your wedding day, everything is so exciting, isn’t it?

Getting married feels like a forever happiness as you’re making arrangements and planning your future together.  After the honeymoon ends, however, real life begins.

Even really devoted couples may find themselves a little bored in their marriages.

I mean, you will love your spouse, but spending day in and day out with the same individual can eventually feel mundane.  If you’re not careful, this can take a toll on your relationship and make you both feel unsatisfied.

Because of this, it’s important couples not naively believe their marriage will remain exciting without some effort.  Believe it or not, as a couple, you have to take some steps to keep your marriage exciting.

5 Tips to Keep Marriage Exciting (Even After Kids)

Is marriage boring?

Yah!  It totally can be!

But, boring is also a really strong word with a really negative tone.  Maybe marriage isn’t as boring as it is comfortable.  And through that comfort, perhaps couples tend to work less at keeping things exciting and fun!

But you don’t have to be stuck in a boring/comfortable marriage … you both just have to remain committed to your vows and work to keep marriage exciting.  Try new things, look for ways to continually connect, and reconnect if you need to.

1. Have Independent Interests

Although I’ve struggled with this at the beginning of my marriage, I’ve since changed my tune after having kids.  While we enjoy our hobby together, I’ve found the importance of having my own thing.

Look, I think the couple that races together stays together, but you both also need separation.

While it’s great to have similar interests and share a hobby as a couple, it’s also important to your relationship to have separate interests.

Essentially, if you both do the same things and spend every waking moment together, what will you have of interest to say to each other?

Spend an appropriate amount of time on your own hobbies and interests so that you bring something unique and fresh to your conversations.  This will ensure you both have something interesting and exciting to talk about when you are together.

Do not spend so much time away from each other, however, that it makes your significant other feel unimportant.  You must continue to strike balance in your relationship.

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2. Spontaneous Events

Thinking back to the years you were dating, you probably never realized how important spontaneous events were for your relationship.  They just sort of happened and you took them for granted.

Once you’re married and real-life takes over, you become busy and have increased obligations, especially after having children.

We tend to rely upon the strength of our relationships as we grow comfortable in them.  But, doing so will work against spontaneity.

Keep your marriage exciting by mixing things up and planning something new.

Is there a movie or TV show your spouse has been dying to see?

Is there a new restaurant in town you’d both like to try?

Make an effort to be spontaneous on occasion to keep things fresh and exciting in your marriage.

3. Never threaten separation

While this isn’t exactly a rule to keep marriage exciting, it is meant to keep your marriage healthy and alive.

In order for a relationship to remain exciting and to grow, both parties should feel confident in the marriage commitment you made to each other.

While it may seem like a harsh rule, you should consider establishing an understanding that if you threaten separation, you need to be prepared to head out the door to back it up.

If you want to survive the ups and downs that are part of all marriages, it’s important to stick with this rule.

4. Weekend Trips

A sure-fire way to keep marriage exciting is to take a vacation, just the two of you.  When you have children, this will surely become even more of a priority.

Take some time away from the kids to rekindle your romance!

With all of your obligations and costs associated with a full-blown vacation, it may be hard to justify.  Instead, consider a one night or weekend trip to someplace local.

Plan dinner and an evening out, capping it off with a night or two in a local hotel.

When you consider the benefits of the quality time spent on a couples vacation, the expense of even a short trip like this can more easily be justified.

5. Spice up the bedroom

Finally, spicing things up in the bedroom will go a long way to bring excitement into any relationship.

Whether or not you wish you believe it, your sex life has a strong influence on the strength and satisfaction of your marriage.

The final tip to bring excitement into any relationship is to spice things up in the bedroom.

Your sex life has a strong correlation with the strength and satisfaction of your relationship. So try exploring a new position or even a sexual fantasy or adult toy with your partner, and in so doing share something intimate and bring some excitement into your marriage.

Need some help in the flirting with the husband department?  Check out these sexy, flirty memes to send him!

6. Bonus Tip: LAUGH

I know I said 5 tips, but I’m giving you a bonus!

Find ways to laugh with each other to keep your marriage alive!  Laughter is the best medicine, after all.

Play silly games or watch stupid shows on Netflix.

Do something random and catch him off guard!

One of my favorite things to do is come down the stairs, turn my old booty to his office door and shake it around.  This simple act makes him smile and helps with #5 as well.

Tell Me: Are There Other Ways to Keep Marriage Exciting?

Do you have trouble with excitement in your marriage?

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Hopefully my tips help bring excitement back to your marriage!

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This post originally appeared on this site July 30, 2018 and has been updated.