Your guide to parenting and the responsibility to the sick kid etiquette. Please, keep your sick kid home!
I’ve considered myself pretty lax with my children’s immune systems.
Within a week after having my first baby, we were out dining at Steak ‘N Shake.
Oh, the baby dropped her pacifier on the ground. 3-second rule! Wipe it off and put it back in her mouth.
I figured, not being overly cautious helped build her immune system.
This thought process carried over to the second baby.
While we were pretty lenient when it came to everyday germs, we’ve held pretty strong feelings about the sick kid etiquette. We’ve never been fond of exposing our children to others who were knowingly sick. Nor is this something we choose to do to others.
We’ve been on play dates where, later on, my kids came down with something and I’d message the moms to let them know we may have accidentally exposed their children to some kind of illness. And, we’ve been messaged for the same reasons.
The problem is the families who have complete and utter disregard for the sick kid etiquette. It’s the annoying parents who knowingly expose their sick kids to others because they don’t want said kids (or themselves for that matter) to miss out on an activity or event.
And, that’s exactly what I want to expand on.
What Is Sick Kid Etiquette?
I like to think the sick kid etiquette is much like any standard daycare or school policy on keeping your kid at home.
Most daycares and schools have sick child policies that outline exactly when to keep your child home from school. Most of those policies involve keeping your child(ren) home for 24 hours after the last sign of illness. These include, but are not limited to:
*Fevers – and by this, they mean 24 hours after a fever has broken without the use of a fever reducer.
*Coughing with significant mucous production or difficulty breathing
*Signs of strep throat
*Rash not associated with known eczema or laundry detergent irritation
Sick Kid Etiquette Isn’t Just For Day Care and School
If you know when to keep your kid home from school, you can use the same concept when determining if your child is well enough to be around anyone else.
And while it should go without saying, if they’re not well enough to go out, they’re not well enough to have visitors at your house either.
Trust me when I say, the moms in your playgroup, gym, and even your friends and family will be grateful if you follow the sick child policy, too.
Even if you’re a mom that thinks the 24-hour sick child policy is ridiculous, it’s possible that your family and friends don’t share your outlook.
While you may have some family and friends that don’t care, they’re probably few and far between.
It’s important to remember to be considerate of others.
*the single working mom who can’t miss another day of work
*the stay at home mom who already doesn’t have a good work-life balance
*families with very young or elderly family members with weak immune systems
*the families who bought a non-refundable vacation package
*the child who may miss his or her own birthday party
Yes, as a mom I’m incredibly annoyed when you bring your kids around knowing they puked an hour ago and you don’t know why.
But, it’s not just annoying for me or my kids. Think about your own children!
If your child has a fever, had an infection, or just got on antibiotics, their doctor probably ordered rest. And that’s for their benefit! Just as you need rest when you’ve been sick.
No one is above the sick kid etiquette.
Questioning The Sick Kid Etiquette?
The easy (and responsible) answer is to keep your sick kids at home!
Take care of them and give their bodies time to rest and recover. (Want to learn more about how to treat common childhood illnesses? Try reading My Child is Sick! Expert Advice for Managing Common Illnesses and Injuries)
If you’re really not sure if you should have your children around someone else’s, just ask them!
Listen, if you called me up to cancel our playdate because your kiddo suddenly came down with a fever or had some crazy rash appear, I promise I would completely understand.
My kids might be upset, but that’s way better than having to hear them whine about whatever illness they contracted from your kids at a playdate that should have been called off if their health was even remotely questionable.
If your kid vomits an hour before Christmas dinner and you’re not sure why? Call it off. Or at the very least, give your family a warning call so they can decide for themselves if it’s worth the risk of exposing their family to your sick kid.
If they choose to stay home, they’ll miss the turkey and all the fixings’, but better than dealing with sick kids the rest of winter break if it could have been avoided.
I mean, I know your mama taught you to share, but I don’t think she meant for you to share your germs. Right?
The cold hard truth is this:
Parents don’t like it when their kids get sick with something that could have been prevented. We like it when our kids are sick way less than missing out on a party, play date, or family meal.
And, if a parent tells you they don’t judge you for bringing your sick kid around when you could avoid it they’re most likely lying.
Truthfully, most of us feel like you’re being disrespectful of others. And, in the process, you’re teaching your kids to disrespect others, too.
Most parents will question your judgment if you bring your kids around others in times other than emergencies!
And, though your kids may make you feel like it …. missing gymnastics practice or not opening Christmas presents from the family on Christmas day does not constitute as an emergency!
Do other parents (and yourself) a favor. Gather your sick kid toolkit, settle in, and revel in the glory that is knowing you didn’t piss off another mama by getting her kids sick.
Please, just keep your sick kids at home!
This post “Sick Kid Etiquette” originally appeared on this site 4/24/19 and has been updated.