As you probably have seen (if you’ve been following for any period of time), I’ve been teaching my daughter to sign since she was about 5 months old – she was about 6 months old when she started signing for milk (many thanks to her instructor for recognizing it and getting me to notice). Baby girl is going on two and still prefers sign language over talking. She can say words, she’s just more inclined to “do” rather than “say”.
My mother has always been super supportive of me teaching Shelby to sign and many times has thanked me for teaching her as it was the only way they could understand her when she stays with them. On the other hand, my Mother-In-Law recently asked me if it was time for us to stop signing yet (she doesn’t understand sign language, so it’s frustrating to her).
My response is still a big, fat NO. I realize people believe Shelby doesn’t speak because she gets her way when she signs. Certainly I’ve been judged because of it. I’ve been made to feel badly as though I’ve held her back with speech because I rank her sign language higher.
The truth of the matter is, trying to force Shelby to actually TALK leads to meltdowns. I know because I have tried. We’ve been in the kitchen with her signing and I have acted as though I don’t have a clue and I’ve brought her to tears and she’s screamed uncontrollably. That’s a point I shouldn’t be bringing her to.
Even when I don’t focus on sign language and spend weeks at a time just using words, she continues to use sign language. I’ve spoken to her doctor expressing my concern about her delayed speech (and she was evaluated after she turned one) – who am I kidding, it’s not my concern, but everyone else is concerned and that makes me feel compelled to think something is wrong with my child (even though I know there isn’t).
So, why aren’t we stopping sign language? Her pediatrician doesn’t believe there’s any cause for concern… he’s seen on numerous occasions that she’s understood things well above her age range. I have seen her sign language blossom even on things she and I don’t use regularly or consistently … in fact, she saw one of her signing videos one time that I hadn’t seen and was using a sign for quite a while that I couldn’t figure out until I happened to watch the same video once. (Note to self – always watch what the kid watches so you’re not confused later!). Further, I believe that if we can continue to build on our sign language, she’ll have a great lead on communicating with others.
What it all comes down to for us is that she’s a smart cookie who has always been more inclined toward physical abilities than with working on speech (never was the cooing babbling babies I’ve always seen). I’ve been seeing a slow emergence in using her voice as she becomes more confident… she called me momma about 2 weeks ago for the first time to my face and wouldn’t do it again until my dad taught her to say momma in more of a tune than speaking it. It’s just the way things are 🙂
I truly believe that when it’s all said and done we’re going to love that our daughter talks AND signs! I’m love it so much that I’m hoping to take some extra classes in the future and perhaps teach other babies and children to sign too!!
If you’re interested in signing along with your baby/toddler, I highly recommend Baby Signing Time and Signing Time!!
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