I found that an integral part of the success of the system was the reward jar. Instead of focusing solely on the negative behavior that needed improvement, I knew it was important to praise and reward her for her good behavior. In using a reward jar, I was able to see the number of times she was good. Sadly, I recognized shortly thereafter how much I tended to focus on the bad.
With the reward jar in place, she also was able to have something concrete to work toward.
When she fills her reward jar, she gets to choose a special outing.
We chose not to include toys and trinkets as rewards because she has too much stuff. Plus, she’s been earning money since she was a toddler doing toddler chores. By allowing her to choose a special activity, we are able to celebrate her accomplishment together, as a family. Of course, your reward options may look different than ours, but I strongly encourage experiences rather than material items.
Do you want some suggestions for reward jars?
Make Your Own Reward Jar
It was easy to set up a reward jar, but it’s not really cute. At least, not at my house. I cleaned out an old Bonne Maman preserves jar, labeled it with a chalkboard label, and employed some craft puffs as the reward balls.
Don’t want to be crafty or look for empty jars? You can certainly purchase reward jars or reward charts that would do the same job.