Do you sometimes feel like a bad mom? 5 perfectly good ways to define what a good mom is that should offer encouragement for moms who may feel like they’re inadequate parents, right now.
I sat down after another long day of toddler tantrums. At one point, the oldest told me the cookie she received at the store wasn’t good enough. I’ve cleaned, cooked, and wore myself out doing mom things. Today seems like every other day.
My husband rarely asks me how my day went. I don’t blame him! He knows the shit show.
No matter what I do, I feel as though I’ve wasted my entire day devoting energy to things blowing up in my face. I don’t do enough. Nothing is enough for the kids. They cry, throw fits, and generally act as though I’m not good enough.
If I don’t resort to a glass of wine in the evening, you may find me fighting back tears.
I wonder how it’s possible I haven’t decided to go back to work and leave the chaos to someone else. For that matter, why haven’t I just walked away.
I’ll go to bed tonight and wake up feeling as though this will be the day I’m rewarded for my efforts. But, as soon as the toddler arrives at the breakfast table, he’ll create drama and ruin his own day. And, I’ll realize today probably will go almost exactly like every other day before it.
I’ll likely forget to pack a snack or send the eldest with the wrong lunch, because I should be reading her mind by now. She’s almost 7 after all.
Have I messed up? Am I a good mom?
Are these the sort of thoughts that run through your mind? Please tell me I’m not alone!
I know I’m a good mom and I know you’re a damned good one too! You care for and love your children despite the chaos and the drain on your energy. You keep trying and you’re always looking for ways to make things better for your family. You feel as though you fail on a regular basis. You fall, but you pick yourself up every day. You just keep trying!
Being a good mom isn’t defined in one way. We’re all different. Our families and their dynamics are different. The needs, desires, and situations all require something unique from each of us.
These following quotes define what a good mom is to the individuals who have been quoted. I hope that you find some comfort in at least one of the definitions. And, if you know a mother struggling today, share one (or all of them) to make her day! You never know who needs to be reminded she’s a good mom!
These Quotes Define What a Good Mom is
If you want to know if you’re a good mom, just ask your kids. The rest of the world can’t determine that for you.
I’ve always believed that caring enough to question your own abilities makes you a good mom! You’re asking questions and looking for ways to improve. That to me defines what a good mom is.
Sleep deprivation is hard on anyone. I know, first-hand, just how difficult it is to do any “momming” without a good nights’ sleep! It’s harder to think and makes one really irritable.
Being a good mom isn’t about keeping the house clean and organized. It’s about the family you raise and the time you spend with them.
“There is no one perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique. Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children. What matters is that a mother loves her children deeply.” – Elder M. Russell Ballard
BONUS: I love this really easy-to-follow flow chart from Huffington Post …. because there really is only one answer:
Tell me: how do you define what a good mom is?
Everyone has an idea of what it takes to be a good mom. Ask any mom-to-be what she thinks a good mom is. She’ll have a fantastic (and unrealistic) idea about motherhood. But, once you’re a mom, you know you’re going to question your every move. And, you’re not going to get much help from all the judgement you get from other moms. Worst of all, those closest to you are probably going to contribute to your self doubt.
The important thing to remember is that you define what a good mom is according to your family dynamic. Be strong, be bold, and don’t doubt yourself. You’ve got this mama!
So, tell me how you define what a good mom is.
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What can I say, but thank you. As this past weekend was just one thing after another being mom including me being under the weather for my own birthday. But I just kept on going somehow through it all. And as I sit here in the quiet this Monday morning after my kids got not he school bus feeling just slightly defeated by it all, I read your article here and made me feel at somewhat better. So for that I once again thank you.
I feel like we’re always having it rough over here. My youngest always seems unhappy and the oldest is 6 going on 16. I like the idea of saving the quotes to help on rough days 😉 But, you’ve got this! Glad you stopped by
Being a mom is a tough job. Some days are bad and then some days are terrible. But tomorrow is a new day 🙂
LOL, you speak my language 😉
Warmed my heart. Great quotes and a really good reminder. I’m re-entering life after a two week vacation away from the kids. Today was a little rough. But we managed. I forgot dry clothes at swimming lessons. Water for the park. Wipes. I’ll try again tomorrow!
Oooh! I need a two week vacation from my kids as well LOL.
What an encouraging post! I loved that Huff Post flow chart! Being a mom is no easy role, that’s for sure! But there are so many ways to be a “good” mom!
This is really great! I define a good mom by being caring, loving and able to let their child grow. Although, I call all moms great, because we are all unique and we all do our best as Moms 🙂
I love your approach to this topic 😀 Thank you!
Love this! I feel the definition of a good mom varies just as much as one’s personal parenting style. None of them are wrong and all deserve support. It is important to remember we are all doing the best we can.
You’re absolutely right! We can’t possibly understand every aspect of each other’s lives, but we can understand that as moms, we do what we think best in the moment. We’re all giving it everything we’ve got, even when we don’t necessarily want to, right?
Good reminders and quotes for one of the toughest jobs. The “job” that never really ends.
Oh man, your comment reminds me of the song that never ends …
Truth. We’ll be on call the rest of our lives
Thank you for this! I think I needed a reminder! Sometimes I feel like I am a hot mess as a mother but I do know deep down that I AM a good mom.
I definitely feel like a hot mess most of the time LOL. I feel your pain. But yes, you’re doing your best. you’ve got this
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I like the quote about asking yourself if you are a good mom. As a mom, we don’t want anything more in the world than taking care of our families under any circumstances. Having this question in mind as mom gives us a higher level of reflection because we always try to improve ourselves for our family.
Being a mom is a life time of responsibility and i’m just learning that. Its hard to be a good mom because there are different perspectives. But I think the most important perspective is the perspective of your children. They are all that matter in being a mom.
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